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The Sandwich Generation

The Sandwich Generation

The money goes somewhere before it can be kept. Every month. On both sides.

There is a phrase for this in financial planning circles: the sandwich generation. People in their thirties and forties who are simultaneously raising children and supporting ageing parents. The metaphor is apt. The pressure comes from both directions, and what's in the middle has to hold.

In Malaysia, the sandwich is particularly dense. Filial care has deep cultural roots. You do not, as a matter of widely understood expectation, leave ageing parents to manage on their own if you have the means not to. This means that money earned in the city often moves in multiple directions, toward school fees and children's needs in one direction, toward medical bills and household costs in another. What remains for the earner's own life is whatever survives the distribution.

The mathematics of this are rarely laid out explicitly. A person who earns RM5,000 a month might send RM800 home to parents, spend RM1,200 on a child's school fees and related costs, carry RM1,500 in loan repayments, pay RM1,200 in rent, and be left with RM300 before daily expenses. That person is technically not poor. They are also running on empty, month to month, with essentially no buffer and certainly no savings rate that would qualify as meaningful.

Financial advisers recommend saving at least ten to fifteen percent of income. The person in this situation is saving nothing. Not because they are careless or undisciplined, but because every ringgit has a destination before it arrives. The margin that would allow saving simply does not exist after the obligations are met.

What is missing from most discussions about retirement planning in Malaysia is an honest account of why the savings rates are low. EPF provides a forced contribution, which is the primary savings vehicle for most working Malaysians. But EPF alone, at current levels for median earners, is not sufficient for a comfortable retirement. The gap is real. And the reason the gap isn't being filled voluntarily is often not ignorance. It's that the money is genuinely spoken for.

The deeper challenge is that this generation has no obvious escape from the squeeze. Children require investment for roughly eighteen to twenty years. Parents' needs tend to increase as they age. Both timelines are long. The window in which a person has substantial income but reduced obligations, the window in which savings can accumulate, may be narrow or may not arrive at all before the person's own retirement age approaches.

There is a toll to this that goes beyond finances. The person who is always needed from multiple directions, who has no discretionary room in the budget and very little in the schedule, is carrying a kind of invisible weight. It tends to produce a specific kind of tiredness that doesn't resolve with a single good night's sleep.

Most of the people navigating this do not describe themselves as struggling. They describe themselves as busy, which is the same thing said in a more manageable register. They are competent. They are meeting the obligations. They are just doing it without a net.

What they need is rarely offered to them: not money, necessarily, but a clear picture of where they stand and what the next ten years actually look like if nothing changes. That picture is uncomfortable to look at. It is also the only useful starting point.